The Difference Between Tutoring and an Academic Coach

Seeing Jake through his anger, frustration and lack of motivation

The Difference Between Tutoring and an Academic Coach

Jake was a great athlete in high school and he was very capable of handling a rigorous academic workload but he lacked motivation to complete his work.


He also struggled with self-esteem even though he was an amazing athlete with plenty of friends. His lack of focus and organization was compounded by his emotional dysregulation.  

Jake’s parents were beyond frustrated. No matter what they did, they couldn’t get him to do his work. They also had issues with Jake’s behavior at home when interacting with his family. It was common for Jake to be disrespectful and unkind to his parents and siblings.

Jake and his parents were burnt out and frustrated with each other

However, it wasn’t just his parents that were frustrated. Jake was feeling very micromanaged by his family and held a lot of resentment towards them even though they had his best interest at heart. He felt like they were watching and judging every move he made or didn’t make
and that only fueled his negative family relationships.

Jake and his parents were at a gridlock and the only way to get things flowing in the right direction was to introduce a third perspective. Enter: coaching!

Within Jake’s first month of coaching, every family member began to see positive changes in his demeanor and school habits.
His parents started to relax and since Jake was self managing and getting work done without constant supervision, their relationship slowly improved. Realizing that Jake would in fact graduate from high school and was even gaining the skills to go onto college was such a relief for them.


It wasn’t all rainbows and butterflys. establishing a productive and authentic connection with Jake took diligence and patience

Working with Jake was a challenge in the beginning because I had to make a real and personal connection with him when he really wasn’t interested in reciprocating. I began by learning more about him, his goals and his complaints so I could understand his perspective and in turn, his emotional tendencies. That way I could help him regulate his habit of getting angry and shutting down.

That solid coaching relationship was the key to Jake’s success. By creating a genuine connection with him he was able to trust my guidance and open up to me about his triggers. 

Establishing a deep trust, helped me support Jake in tackling many issues that affected his ability to self-regulate his emotions and focus on academics even on the bad days.


Achieving success with a little trust and patience

Through diligence and consistent communication around his emotional triggers, Jake found his balance
and worked through his insecurities that impacted his self-esteem. This allowed him to begin excelling in academics and in his family relationships as well.

Jake went on to college, joined a fraternity and became a successful business student.

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